Years ago, I fell hard for a boss. Initially, I might have used the word love. That I fell in love with him. Now much older, knowing what love actually means and entails, it wasn't love. It was infatuation. But my feelings of infatuation were quite significant when it came to understanding my bigger romantic hunger and obstacles.

I have worked with many a client who has experienced the same thing — some merely admired male colleagues from afar, while some entered full**-blown relationships. The consistency of this pattern among my clients (and, well, myself), hard-**working, hero daughters, is key. The draw to these types of men in these types of scenarios is very reflective of the way we long to be seen and loved, but not helpful when it comes to securing a committed, fulfilling relationship.

In this episode I'm covering:

What drives our attraction in professional environmentsWhat creates those heightened feelings of obsession and infatuationHow, even if the relationship isn't romantic, we get some emotional fulfillment, often causing us to not seek it elsewhereHow these "relationships," even when they result in affairs, feel "safe"How we can break down this pattern to understand what's begging to be healed (on our own), and why it's serving as an obstacle to finding true partnershipOther episodes mentioned:

Ep 124 Why does sex with the people that are so wrong for us feel so good? With therapist Julia Zwerin.

Ep 5 | The relationship that broke me in all the ways I needed to be broken (AKA uncovering my father wound)

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Erscheinungs­datum: 14.1.2026, 09:00:00